I am Thankful for many things in my life, among which one is having this incredible man as my life partner.
My husband, I will call him "J" is without a doubt a Good Black Man
Part of what makes him so darn good is his humbleness - he would never proclaim to be a GBM; just one who tries hard to take care of his business. That is part of what makes him so wonderful, and I'm thankful that he is so non ego-driven.
J takes his responsibility as leader and protector of our family seriously. Doors and windows - check. Smoke alarm batteries - check. HVAC filter - check. Vehicle maintenance - check. I realize it sounds like I'm listing stuff he does for me. That isn't what I'm grateful for. I'm thankful that J loves and cares enough to make sure everything involving the safety of our family is in his good hands.
I don't EVER have to ask "honey, did X get done
?" If it impacts the well-being of this family, I KNOW it gets done. He makes sure of it.
J jogs regularly, keeps fit and yet is not doing so for the sake of his own vanity. He indicated that his motivation is to remain healthy for the sake of our babies, and for me. I know its true because he doesn't primp. He runs to "de-stress" like after a disagreement we might have
While his motive for being fit is selfless, I totally benefit from the results because he is HOT
I benefit! Yes, I'm thankful he cares about his health for OUR sake!
Watching J play with our babies warms my heart! We played Freeze Frame last night (playing music and freeze when the pause button is hit). J thinks NOTHING of making himself look foolish if it will elicit a joyous laugh from our children. The kids worship him! Daddy can do anything and everything in their eyes. The only person with more abilities than Daddy is "Grandpa" - mostly because Grandpas are "Dads of Dads!" I'm thankful that my wonderful husband is such a loving and dedicated father to our babies.
He doesn't always understand the complexities of my career, but he listens patiently while I vent about situations and folks. I know he finds the work-related socials boring and boycotts all except those which are absolutely neccesary. But no doubt at all, when I need his support - he is there for me. I am thankful for a man who is not intimidated by the demands of my career on BOTH of us!
I am the thinker and planner. For example, I have our household budget planned out to December 2011. Overkill? Perhaps. So I'm thankful for a man who knows how to get me to lighten up!
I'm tall (5'9") and love heels So I'm thankful his measure of manhood isn't determined by how much he towers over me
- - 'cause when I'm wearing my favorite fuschia stillettos, only NBA players tower over me.
My wonderful husband likes when I dress up, but also doesn't express his displeasure (if he is displeased) when I'm feeling shlepish and wearing sweats. When I get into hair style ruts. My hair is quite long (not like Chanin's) but I hate the feeling of it sticking to my neck. Hence I often wear it up in a hairknot which he refers to as "the giant doorknob on the top of your head."
(LOL) I might get question like "when do you plan to get your hair done?"
That's the most critical he'll get about my appearance, but more because he wants me to look good for my OWN sake. I'm thankful to have a man who can see thru my bad hair and clothes days, and loves me in spite of them!
I am SO THANKFUL that I have the kind of loving, supportive, mutually respectful relationship that too many people don't believe can exist. Disagreements occur, and we do have differences of opinions. But there is never ever any doubt in my mind that this man loves me head-to-toe, inside and out and would rather die than to let anything bad happen to me or to our children.
I love him back the same way.
Thank you J, for showing me, teaching me and living with me all that love could and should be.