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		<title><![CDATA[Diary of a Tired Black Man - The Movie - All Forums]]></title>
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		<description>Diary of a Tired Black Man - The Movie - http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums</description>
		<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:41:07 -0500</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[Young Black Men Making It Happen!]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7262</link>
			<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:24:28 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4R-k2VqXcw

Powerful!

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4R-k2VqXcw

Powerful!

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			<title><![CDATA[This Is Why I Do What I Do!]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7261</link>
			<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:27:01 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[To reach people like her so she can reach out to other people... Watch:



I want to reach the broken women who do not understand - not build a social club to make people happy.

She is one of tens of thousands of women and men who have been opened up by my film.&nbsp;&nbsp;This forum is but a tool to make me a better filmmaker.&nbsp;&nbsp;I even learn from skii.&nbsp;&nbsp;She thinks like many of the women I need to reach with my message.&nbsp;&nbsp;She is a practice exercise for me, and should be looked at as one by all of us, as she is nothing more.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[To reach people like her so she can reach out to other people... Watch:



I want to reach the broken women who do not understand - not build a social club to make people happy.

She is one of tens of thousands of women and men who have been opened up by my film.&nbsp;&nbsp;This forum is but a tool to make me a better filmmaker.&nbsp;&nbsp;I even learn from skii.&nbsp;&nbsp;She thinks like many of the women I need to reach with my message.&nbsp;&nbsp;She is a practice exercise for me, and should be looked at as one by all of us, as she is nothing more.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Sistas With Natural Hair]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7260</link>
			<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 11:20:28 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Just thought I would shout out the sistas with natural hair!  :D

Attractive young lady, isn't she?
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Just thought I would shout out the sistas with natural hair!  :D

Attractive young lady, isn't she?
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			<title><![CDATA[Is it Just Me or is Anyone Else getting Sick of Black Women? ***sarcasm***]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7258</link>
			<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:14:14 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Man, I aint never felt like this in my life, man, towards black women.

I used to be SO pro-black, and used to love black women-- but, man, sometimes enough is enough.

I just feel like I need to go on a LONG vacation break from these black broads, man-- before I end up losing my mind.

But then again-- as SOON as we try to get around women from other races, or hell even OTHER BLACK ETHNIC GROUPS OUTSIDE of AMERIKKKA. The reign of terror and fury that is the Black American's woman's insecurity comes plunging down on us through evil stares, being called a "sellout", feminist shaming tactics, or scare tactics.

Just look at what they are trying to do to brothers whom want to escape for a while just to go to Brazil (written surprisingly good by a WHITE MAN):
http://breadandwine.blogspot.com/2006/09...rican.html
"This month's Women Against Sex award goes to Essence Magazine, which reveals some shocking news about the latest epidemic sweeping the black community. No, it isn't crack, out-of-wedlock births, or HIV. Instead, the brothers are all flocking in hordes to Brazil on secret sex vacations. Oh my God!
It must be true, because William Jelani Cobb, a professor of history at the African-American university Spelman College, says it's true. They're going down there in droves, escaping the pressures of a real-life relationship to bang Third World hookers on the cheap. Many of them have even -- perish the thought! -- walked away from stateside relationships altogether. 

Even NPR -- not exactly a bastion of objective reporting -- wants to get in a story about this "disturbing new trend". Ed Gordon shows just how uninformed he is by trying to warn listeners about HIV, but even Cobb has to admit that the Brazilian government has dramatically curbed the rate of new infections through an aggressive public health program. That leaves Cobb with only one real issue left: the "moral irony" of black men paying for sex in Brazil. Exactly how black men paying for sex is more morally ironic in Brazil that it is when they do it in the States is something neither of them bothers to explain. I also don't understand how it's more morally ironic when black men do it than when white men do it. In any case, I'm left with the distinct impression that William Cobb really needs to get laid.

So where is the story? What is Mr. Cobb's problem with black American males experiencing Brazilian culture, music, beaches, and yes, women?

I think it's just possible that black American men love Brazilian women for the same reason all American men do, and it doesn't have anything to do with feminism or with race. Brazilian women in particular, and Latin women in general, seem to genuinely enjoy spending time with men. Even those who prefer to kick it with other Brazilians (and they do exist, too) seem to genuinely value time spent with the opposite sex. American women black and white, given the choice, would probably just as soon spend an evening out with the girls than negotiate the gender / communication gap with some sloppy guy who likes beer and football. American men are getting wise to the fact that women in other parts of the world don't always feel the same way. And that scares the ever-loving crap out of American women. So they enlist academics like Cobb to sound the alarm and generate magazine-selling headlines, and a white-dominated media establishment that's only too eager to heap more scorn on black men. Shame on them....

There are many comments on the Essence magazine website which highlight the controversy....
Adding insult to injury is a sidebar in the print version of the article, about an African-American woman who hooks up for casual sex while on vacation in Jamaica. The implication seems to be that when a woman does it she's getting her "groove back", but when a man does it, it means he's an escapist horndog dodging his responsibilities. What absolute arrogance and hypocrisy....

There is a lot more at stake in this debate than just American men's ability to get laid whenever they want. One little-known provision of the recently-renewed Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act, which essentially brands all American men abusers and batters unless they can prove otherwise. The feminist lobby wants to make it as inconvenient as possible for American men to marry outside the country, by mandating that police records and other court documents be made available to any woman with whom a man is corresponding through a marriage broker. This is not some theoretical threat, guys -- it's current U.S. law."
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Man, I aint never felt like this in my life, man, towards black women.

I used to be SO pro-black, and used to love black women-- but, man, sometimes enough is enough.

I just feel like I need to go on a LONG vacation break from these black broads, man-- before I end up losing my mind.

But then again-- as SOON as we try to get around women from other races, or hell even OTHER BLACK ETHNIC GROUPS OUTSIDE of AMERIKKKA. The reign of terror and fury that is the Black American's woman's insecurity comes plunging down on us through evil stares, being called a "sellout", feminist shaming tactics, or scare tactics.

Just look at what they are trying to do to brothers whom want to escape for a while just to go to Brazil (written surprisingly good by a WHITE MAN):
http://breadandwine.blogspot.com/2006/09...rican.html
"This month's Women Against Sex award goes to Essence Magazine, which reveals some shocking news about the latest epidemic sweeping the black community. No, it isn't crack, out-of-wedlock births, or HIV. Instead, the brothers are all flocking in hordes to Brazil on secret sex vacations. Oh my God!
It must be true, because William Jelani Cobb, a professor of history at the African-American university Spelman College, says it's true. They're going down there in droves, escaping the pressures of a real-life relationship to bang Third World hookers on the cheap. Many of them have even -- perish the thought! -- walked away from stateside relationships altogether. 

Even NPR -- not exactly a bastion of objective reporting -- wants to get in a story about this "disturbing new trend". Ed Gordon shows just how uninformed he is by trying to warn listeners about HIV, but even Cobb has to admit that the Brazilian government has dramatically curbed the rate of new infections through an aggressive public health program. That leaves Cobb with only one real issue left: the "moral irony" of black men paying for sex in Brazil. Exactly how black men paying for sex is more morally ironic in Brazil that it is when they do it in the States is something neither of them bothers to explain. I also don't understand how it's more morally ironic when black men do it than when white men do it. In any case, I'm left with the distinct impression that William Cobb really needs to get laid.

So where is the story? What is Mr. Cobb's problem with black American males experiencing Brazilian culture, music, beaches, and yes, women?

I think it's just possible that black American men love Brazilian women for the same reason all American men do, and it doesn't have anything to do with feminism or with race. Brazilian women in particular, and Latin women in general, seem to genuinely enjoy spending time with men. Even those who prefer to kick it with other Brazilians (and they do exist, too) seem to genuinely value time spent with the opposite sex. American women black and white, given the choice, would probably just as soon spend an evening out with the girls than negotiate the gender / communication gap with some sloppy guy who likes beer and football. American men are getting wise to the fact that women in other parts of the world don't always feel the same way. And that scares the ever-loving crap out of American women. So they enlist academics like Cobb to sound the alarm and generate magazine-selling headlines, and a white-dominated media establishment that's only too eager to heap more scorn on black men. Shame on them....

There are many comments on the Essence magazine website which highlight the controversy....
Adding insult to injury is a sidebar in the print version of the article, about an African-American woman who hooks up for casual sex while on vacation in Jamaica. The implication seems to be that when a woman does it she's getting her "groove back", but when a man does it, it means he's an escapist horndog dodging his responsibilities. What absolute arrogance and hypocrisy....

There is a lot more at stake in this debate than just American men's ability to get laid whenever they want. One little-known provision of the recently-renewed Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act, which essentially brands all American men abusers and batters unless they can prove otherwise. The feminist lobby wants to make it as inconvenient as possible for American men to marry outside the country, by mandating that police records and other court documents be made available to any woman with whom a man is corresponding through a marriage broker. This is not some theoretical threat, guys -- it's current U.S. law."
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			<title><![CDATA[Just ignore Skii vs permanent ban for Jlant]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7257</link>
			<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 06:38:46 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Sometimes, the deeply embedded warfare against black men isn't so obvious. Sometimes, it is subtle and yet just as deadly. I have supported Brother Tim's film..at last count, 5 people have PURCHASED it from Amazon.com or other venues based on my suggestions. This includes a Professor of Sociology at UMKC and junior college instructor that focuses on social issues in the black community. Here in Kansas City, the film was mentioned at the recent board meeting where they voted to close almost 50% of their schools. The person that mentioned it during their comments, as a reference point on the deeply ingrained effects of institutionalized racism, heard about the film from me.

Yet, I post here and Tim threatens to permanently ban me at least once every week or 10 days.

Skii, on the other hand, has been a constant thorn in the side and it is said "just ignore her"...and "do not respond to her..."

I assume she is black...based on that assumption..what is the difference? Gender.

Nearly all black men that are murdered..are murdered at the hands of other black men. I guess the internet is no different.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Sometimes, the deeply embedded warfare against black men isn't so obvious. Sometimes, it is subtle and yet just as deadly. I have supported Brother Tim's film..at last count, 5 people have PURCHASED it from Amazon.com or other venues based on my suggestions. This includes a Professor of Sociology at UMKC and junior college instructor that focuses on social issues in the black community. Here in Kansas City, the film was mentioned at the recent board meeting where they voted to close almost 50% of their schools. The person that mentioned it during their comments, as a reference point on the deeply ingrained effects of institutionalized racism, heard about the film from me.

Yet, I post here and Tim threatens to permanently ban me at least once every week or 10 days.

Skii, on the other hand, has been a constant thorn in the side and it is said "just ignore her"...and "do not respond to her..."

I assume she is black...based on that assumption..what is the difference? Gender.

Nearly all black men that are murdered..are murdered at the hands of other black men. I guess the internet is no different.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[sorry]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7256</link>
			<pubDate>Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:39:17 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[sorry Tim for that earlier thread..i deleted it...don't want to disrespect your space]]></description>
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			<title><![CDATA[Couple leaves child behind during robbery]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7253</link>
			<pubDate>Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:13:52 -0500</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[Face to face, the hunch was confirmed]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7252</link>
			<pubDate>Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:08:52 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Met a long time on-line friend who I have had suspecions about for a long time.&nbsp;&nbsp;She is mostly a very nice person, not wanting drama, BUT, with an ounce of the wrong thing she turns into all drama.&nbsp;&nbsp;

What's even worse, she is an insecure person who has no reason to be that way.&nbsp;&nbsp;She has a ton of smarts, wit, attractive, but that insecure mindset was a killer.&nbsp;&nbsp;I have played that game of casting a shadow on the button (not pushing it) and it kicks in.&nbsp;&nbsp;WOW.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Now I know.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Met a long time on-line friend who I have had suspecions about for a long time.&nbsp;&nbsp;She is mostly a very nice person, not wanting drama, BUT, with an ounce of the wrong thing she turns into all drama.&nbsp;&nbsp;

What's even worse, she is an insecure person who has no reason to be that way.&nbsp;&nbsp;She has a ton of smarts, wit, attractive, but that insecure mindset was a killer.&nbsp;&nbsp;I have played that game of casting a shadow on the button (not pushing it) and it kicks in.&nbsp;&nbsp;WOW.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Now I know.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[The Plague of Modern Masculinity (Pt. 3 of 3)]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7249</link>
			<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:30:37 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Here is the last video in this series.  Paul provides food for thought...to say the least.

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Here is the last video in this series.  Paul provides food for thought...to say the least.

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			<title><![CDATA[Divorce and Suicide by Men]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7248</link>
			<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:27:52 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Cafferty File has an article posted titled: Why does divorce make men more suicidal than women?

URL:&nbsp;&nbsp;http://caffertyfile.blogs.cnn.com/2010/0...en/?hpt=T2&nbsp;&nbsp; 

Start Article ****
It's no secret divorces can be ugly, messy and uncomfortable in so many ways... but now there's research that suggests divorce is also one of the top reasons for suicide among men.

AOL News reports that the stress and sadness associated with divorce take a much tougher toll on men than women.

Experts say suicide rates are higher among divorced men - and lowest among those who are still married. Single men fall in between.

One sociologist who studies family structure and suicide rates says divorced men are almost 40 percent more likely to commit suicide than those who are still married. That number jumps to 50 percent for a man who is widowed.

Yet for women there's a statistically insignificant difference when it comes to the risk for suicide among those who are married, divorced or widowed.

Some think it's because marriage provides a support system that men rely on much more than women. There are also studies that show married men take fewer risks and are healthier - less likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.

Another reason why women might be less suicidal is because of the children. Women often remain the primary caretakers for kids after divorce; and research shows that for every additional child in a home, the adult is less and less likely to commit suicide.

Overall - men in this country are four times more likely than women to take their own lives.

Here’s my question to you: Why does divorce make men more suicidal than women?

Tune in to the Situation Room at 7pm to see if Jack reads your answer on air.
************ End of Article ***********

Now, read the comments posted by various readers on the website. Wow.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Cafferty File has an article posted titled: Why does divorce make men more suicidal than women?

URL:&nbsp;&nbsp;http://caffertyfile.blogs.cnn.com/2010/0...en/?hpt=T2&nbsp;&nbsp; 

Start Article ****
It's no secret divorces can be ugly, messy and uncomfortable in so many ways... but now there's research that suggests divorce is also one of the top reasons for suicide among men.

AOL News reports that the stress and sadness associated with divorce take a much tougher toll on men than women.

Experts say suicide rates are higher among divorced men - and lowest among those who are still married. Single men fall in between.

One sociologist who studies family structure and suicide rates says divorced men are almost 40 percent more likely to commit suicide than those who are still married. That number jumps to 50 percent for a man who is widowed.

Yet for women there's a statistically insignificant difference when it comes to the risk for suicide among those who are married, divorced or widowed.

Some think it's because marriage provides a support system that men rely on much more than women. There are also studies that show married men take fewer risks and are healthier - less likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.

Another reason why women might be less suicidal is because of the children. Women often remain the primary caretakers for kids after divorce; and research shows that for every additional child in a home, the adult is less and less likely to commit suicide.

Overall - men in this country are four times more likely than women to take their own lives.

Here’s my question to you: Why does divorce make men more suicidal than women?

Tune in to the Situation Room at 7pm to see if Jack reads your answer on air.
************ End of Article ***********

Now, read the comments posted by various readers on the website. Wow.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Young Woman Idolizes Lil Wayne So Much She Tattoos His Image On Her Body! HOW STUPID!]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7247</link>
			<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:12:36 -0500</pubDate>
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So lets see here... She barely looks 18 and she looks like a fool with all of those tattoos on he face - I wonder what her family thinks? She tattooed right over her stretch marks, so she is somebodies mother as well - I wonder how that is going to go. The only thing I do like about this picture is her finger position (even if she did not mean it that way) as she points to Lil Wayne. I appreciate this ridiculous image, now some people can stop saying Lil Wayne and rap music don't influence people, they do.

This is a sign of our times - we can run from it no longer, it is truly out of control now.  The media is a whore.

She tattoos her face because he tattoos his, and she will probably never even meet this jailbird druggy hip hop loser.&nbsp;&nbsp;How many more fools will follow that demon named Wayne?]]></description>
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So lets see here... She barely looks 18 and she looks like a fool with all of those tattoos on he face - I wonder what her family thinks? She tattooed right over her stretch marks, so she is somebodies mother as well - I wonder how that is going to go. The only thing I do like about this picture is her finger position (even if she did not mean it that way) as she points to Lil Wayne. I appreciate this ridiculous image, now some people can stop saying Lil Wayne and rap music don't influence people, they do.

This is a sign of our times - we can run from it no longer, it is truly out of control now.  The media is a whore.

She tattoos her face because he tattoos his, and she will probably never even meet this jailbird druggy hip hop loser.&nbsp;&nbsp;How many more fools will follow that demon named Wayne?]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Black couple hold the record for the world's longest marriage]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7246</link>
			<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:46:46 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[

Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of New Bern, N.C., hold the world record for life in wedded bliss: 85 years. He's 104, and she's 101.

On their May 13 anniversary, they will join an elite club: the longest marriages on record. One couple got a big head start on their marriage. You must go back more than 200 years to find the other couple married 86 years.

A Fisher time line: Around their 10th anniversary, this everyday household appliance hit the carpet. When they celebrated their 25th anniversary, this song was a hit (watch videos). When they marked their 50th, this irritating icon was everywhere (see pictures, if you must). By the time they reached their 75th year of marriage, we were hooked on this reality show.

The Fishers dabbled in social media by tweeting their secrets to a long, happy marriage for Valentine's Day last month.

Zelmyra Fisher still gets around with a walker, and Herbert loves to watch this on TV. They credit their marital success to faith in God, a loving family and few big fusses over their long marriage.

http://specials.msn.com/A-List/Worlds-re...1.0&vv=700]]></description>
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Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of New Bern, N.C., hold the world record for life in wedded bliss: 85 years. He's 104, and she's 101.

On their May 13 anniversary, they will join an elite club: the longest marriages on record. One couple got a big head start on their marriage. You must go back more than 200 years to find the other couple married 86 years.

A Fisher time line: Around their 10th anniversary, this everyday household appliance hit the carpet. When they celebrated their 25th anniversary, this song was a hit (watch videos). When they marked their 50th, this irritating icon was everywhere (see pictures, if you must). By the time they reached their 75th year of marriage, we were hooked on this reality show.

The Fishers dabbled in social media by tweeting their secrets to a long, happy marriage for Valentine's Day last month.

Zelmyra Fisher still gets around with a walker, and Herbert loves to watch this on TV. They credit their marital success to faith in God, a loving family and few big fusses over their long marriage.

http://specials.msn.com/A-List/Worlds-re...1.0&vv=700]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Sister Eva Dat Diva speaks: Feminism is a joke!]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7245</link>
			<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:47:58 -0500</pubDate>
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Black "women" are waking up daily!

What do you think about this young lady's words?

EV

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Read, sign, then pass on our petition to help us change US policy that is being used against Haitians.

http://www.petitiononline.com/mod_perl/s...gi?evcolas

EV]]></description>
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Black "women" are waking up daily!

What do you think about this young lady's words?

EV

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Want to do something powerful?

Read, sign, then pass on our petition to help us change US policy that is being used against Haitians.

http://www.petitiononline.com/mod_perl/s...gi?evcolas

EV]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Sister Miller spits truth - Wake Up Black Women..]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7244</link>
			<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:05:05 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[

In the last several months, more and more Black women are going onto You Tube and doing what we asked them to do. They are rejecting feminism!

Double click on the video to go to YT and comment.

EV

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Want to do something powerful?

Read, sign, then pass on our petition to help us change US policy that is being used against Haitians.
Tim and others here have signed. You can sign too.

http://www.petitiononline.com/mod_perl/s...gi?evcolas

EV]]></description>
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In the last several months, more and more Black women are going onto You Tube and doing what we asked them to do. They are rejecting feminism!

Double click on the video to go to YT and comment.

EV

---------------------------------------------------
Want to do something powerful?

Read, sign, then pass on our petition to help us change US policy that is being used against Haitians.
Tim and others here have signed. You can sign too.

http://www.petitiononline.com/mod_perl/s...gi?evcolas

EV]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Man who is angry over child support Murders the Mother of his children]]></title>
			<link>http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7243</link>
			<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:18:03 -0500</pubDate>
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ST. CHARLES TOWNSHIP -- A court order forcing him to make child support payments enraged a man enough to kill the 25-year-old mother of his children in her Aurora apartment, Kane County prosecutors claim.

The ex-boyfriend of 25-year-old Brenetta Beck of Aurora was in Kane County Court Monday, charged with first-degree murder for stabbing Beck to death while their children -- a 14-month-old girl and a 10-day-old boy -- were present.

The prosecution contends that Hezekiah Hamilton, 26, of Joliet, stabbed Beck multiple times during the early morning hours of Oct. 30, 2007, and left her body on the bathroom floor of her apartment in the 1700 block of Molitor Road.

State's Attorney John Barsanti is lead prosecutor in the trial.

Prosecutors said the motive behind the attack appears to be child support payments. Hamilton was angry about being ordered by the court to pay support for the children, prosecutors said.

An attorney who had worked with Beck to secure the child support payments testified Monday that Hamilton was extremely irate with the outcome.

"His behavior was not typical at all," she said. "I've been in court for eight years. I've seen a lot of anger and strange things. ... Mr. Hamilton's behavior was not typical."

Hamilton's former girlfriend, Candice Sweat -- with whom he was living at the time of the murder -- testified Monday that on the morning of Oct. 30, Hamilton left their Joliet apartment to go to work at a factory in Aurora.

Sweat said that at the time, Hamilton was wearing a short-sleeved work shirt, blue work pants and boots.

She said she went to the factory in the 900 block of Industrial Drive to check on Hamilton after he failed to return her phone calls, but Hamilton was not there.

Sweat said she called Hamilton, who told her he had gone home sick, but was headed back to work.

Sweat said she drove to the company and met Hamilton, who was wearing a different work shirt than he had put on that morning, and did not have the sweatshirt he had been wearing.

On Nov. 1, police picked Hamilton up at a home in Plainfield.

Officers testified Monday that they found Hamilton's socks there, which showed signs of blood, and work boots that matched prints from the crime scene.

The bench trial before Judge Timothy Sheldon resumes at 9 a.m. today]]></description>
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ST. CHARLES TOWNSHIP -- A court order forcing him to make child support payments enraged a man enough to kill the 25-year-old mother of his children in her Aurora apartment, Kane County prosecutors claim.

The ex-boyfriend of 25-year-old Brenetta Beck of Aurora was in Kane County Court Monday, charged with first-degree murder for stabbing Beck to death while their children -- a 14-month-old girl and a 10-day-old boy -- were present.

The prosecution contends that Hezekiah Hamilton, 26, of Joliet, stabbed Beck multiple times during the early morning hours of Oct. 30, 2007, and left her body on the bathroom floor of her apartment in the 1700 block of Molitor Road.

State's Attorney John Barsanti is lead prosecutor in the trial.

Prosecutors said the motive behind the attack appears to be child support payments. Hamilton was angry about being ordered by the court to pay support for the children, prosecutors said.

An attorney who had worked with Beck to secure the child support payments testified Monday that Hamilton was extremely irate with the outcome.

"His behavior was not typical at all," she said. "I've been in court for eight years. I've seen a lot of anger and strange things. ... Mr. Hamilton's behavior was not typical."

Hamilton's former girlfriend, Candice Sweat -- with whom he was living at the time of the murder -- testified Monday that on the morning of Oct. 30, Hamilton left their Joliet apartment to go to work at a factory in Aurora.

Sweat said that at the time, Hamilton was wearing a short-sleeved work shirt, blue work pants and boots.

She said she went to the factory in the 900 block of Industrial Drive to check on Hamilton after he failed to return her phone calls, but Hamilton was not there.

Sweat said she called Hamilton, who told her he had gone home sick, but was headed back to work.

Sweat said she drove to the company and met Hamilton, who was wearing a different work shirt than he had put on that morning, and did not have the sweatshirt he had been wearing.

On Nov. 1, police picked Hamilton up at a home in Plainfield.

Officers testified Monday that they found Hamilton's socks there, which showed signs of blood, and work boots that matched prints from the crime scene.

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			<title><![CDATA[51% of women are now living without a spouse]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[For what experts say is probably the first time, more American women are living without a husband than with one, according to a New York Times analysis of census results.

In 2005, 51 percent of women said they were living without a spouse, up from 35 percent in 1950 and 49 percent in 2000.

Coupled with the fact that in 2005 married couples became a minority of all American households for the first time, the trend could ultimately shape social and workplace policies, including the ways government and employers distribute benefits.

Several factors are driving the statistical shift. At one end of the age spectrum, women are marrying later or living with unmarried partners more often and for longer periods. At the other end, women are living longer as widows and, after a divorce, are more likely than men to delay remarriage, sometimes delighting in their newfound freedom.

In addition, marriage rates among black women remain low. Only about 30 percent of black women are living with a spouse, according to the Census Bureau, compared with about 49 percent of Hispanic women, 55 percent of non-Hispanic white women and more than 60 percent of Asian women.

In a relatively small number of cases, the living arrangement is temporary, because the husbands are working out of town, are in the military or are institutionalized. But while most women eventually marry, the larger trend is unmistakable.

“This is yet another of the inexorable signs that there is no going back to a world where we can assume that marriage is the main institution that organizes people’s lives,” said Prof. Stephanie Coontz, director of public education for the Council on Contemporary Families, a nonprofit research group. “Most of these women will marry, or have married. But on average, Americans now spend half their adult lives outside marriage.”

Professor Coontz said this was probably unprecedented with the possible exception of major wartime mobilizations and when black couples were separated during slavery.

William H. Frey, a demographer with the Brookings Institution, a research group in Washington, described the shift as “a clear tipping point, reflecting the culmination of post-1960 trends associated with greater independence and more flexible lifestyles for women.”

“For better or worse, women are less dependent on men or the institution of marriage,” Dr. Frey said. “Younger women understand this better, and are preparing to live longer parts of their lives alone or with nonmarried partners. For many older boomer and senior women, the institution of marriage did not hold the promise they might have hoped for, growing up in an ‘Ozzie and Harriet’ era.”

Emily Zuzik, a 32-year-old musician and model who lives in the East Village of Manhattan, said she was not surprised by the trend.

“A lot of my friends are divorced or single or living alone,” Ms. Zuzik said. “I know a lot of people in their 30s who have roommates.”

Ms. Zuzik has lived with a boyfriend twice, once in California where the couple registered as domestic partners to qualify for his health insurance plan. “I don’t plan to live with anyone else again until I am married,” she said, “and I may opt to keep a place of my own even then.”

Linda Barth, a 56-year-old magazine editor in Houston who has never married, said, “I used to divide my women friends into single friends and married friends. Now that doesn’t seem to be an issue.”

Sheila Jamison, who also lives in the East Village and works for a media company, is 45 and single. She says her family believes she would have had a better chance of finding a husband had she attended a historically black college instead of Duke.

“Considering all the weddings I attended in the ’80s that have ended so very, very badly, I consider myself straight up lucky,” Ms. Jamison said. “I have not sworn off marriage, but if I do wed, it will be to have a companion with whom I can travel and play parlor games in my old age.”

Carol Crenshaw, 57, of Roswell, Ga., was divorced in 2005 after 33 years and says she is in no hurry to marry again.

“I’m in a place in my life where I’m comfortable,” said Ms. Crenshaw, who has two grown sons. “I can do what I want, when I want, with whom I want. I was a wife and a mother. I don’t feel like I need to do that again.”

Similarly, Shelley Fidler, 59, a public policy adviser at a law firm, has sworn off marriage. She moved from rural Virginia to the vibrant Adams Morgan neighborhood of Washington, D.C., when her 30-year marriage ended.

“The benefits were completely unforeseen for me,” Ms. Fidler said, “the free time, the amount of time I get to spend with friends, the time I have alone, which I value tremendously, the flexibility in terms of work, travel and cultural events.”

Among the more than 117 million women age 15 and older, according to the marital status category in the Census Bureau’s latest American Community Survey, 63 million are married. Of those, 3.1 million are legally separated and 2.4 million said their husbands were not living at home for one reason or another.

That brings the number of American women actually living with a spouse to 57.5 million, compared with the 59.9 million who are single or whose husbands were not living at home when the survey was taken in 2005.

Some of those situations, which the census identifies as “spouse absent” and “other,” are temporary, and, of course, even some people who describe themselves as separated eventually reunite with their spouses.

Over all, a larger share of men are married and living with their spouse — about 53 percent compared with 49 percent among women.

“Since women continue to outlive men, they have reached the nonmarital tipping point — more nonmarried than married,” Dr. Frey said. “This suggests that most girls growing up today can look forward to spending more of their lives outside of a traditional marriage.”

Pamela J. Smock, a researcher at the University of Michigan Population Studies Center, agreed, saying that “changing patterns of courtship, marriage, and that we are living longer lives all play a role.”

“Men also remarry more quickly than women after a divorce,” Ms. Smock added, “and both are increasingly likely to cohabit rather than remarry after a divorce.”

The proportion of married people, especially among younger age groups, has been declining for decades. Between 1950 and 2000, the share of women 15-to-24 who were married plummeted to 16 percent, from 42 percent. Among 25-to-34-year-olds, the proportion dropped to 58 percent, from 82 percent.

“Although we can help people ‘do’ marriage better, it is simply delusional to construct social policy or make personal life decisions on the basis that you can count on people spending most of their adult lives in marriage,” said Professor Coontz, the author of “Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage.”

Besse Gardner, 24, said she and her boyfriend met as college freshmen and started living together last April “for all the wrong reasons” — they found a great apartment on the beach in Los Angeles.

“We do not see living together as an end or even for the rest of our lives — it’s just fun right now,” Ms. Gardner said. “My roommate is someone I’d be thrilled to marry one day, but it just doesn’t make sense right now.”

Ms. Crenshaw said that some of the women in her support group for divorced women were miserable, but that she was surprised how happy she was to be single again.

“That’s not how I grew up,” she said. “That’s not how society thinks. It’s a marriage culture.”

Elissa B. Terris, 59, of Marietta, Ga., divorced in 2005 after being married for 34 years and raising a daughter, who is now an adult.

“A gentleman asked me to marry him and I said no,” she recalled. “I told him, ‘I’m just beginning to fly again, I’m just beginning to be me. Don’t take that away.’ ”

“Marriage kind of aged me because there weren’t options,” Ms. Terris said. “There was only one way to go. Now I have choices. One night I slept on the other side of the bed, and I thought, I like this side.”

She said she was returning to college to get a master’s degree (her former husband “didn’t want me to do that because I was more educated than he was”), had taken photography classes and was auditioning for a play.

“Once you go through something you think will kill you and it doesn’t,” she said, “every day is like a present.”

Ariel Sabar, Brenda Goodman and Maureen Balleza contributed reporting.

Correction: February 14, 2007

A front-page article and chart on Jan. 16 about the rising number of women in the United States living without spouses referred imprecisely to ages of the women included in the Census Bureau survey that was the basis of the finding. The women were 15 and older, not over 15.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/01/16/us/16c...wanted=all]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[For what experts say is probably the first time, more American women are living without a husband than with one, according to a New York Times analysis of census results.

In 2005, 51 percent of women said they were living without a spouse, up from 35 percent in 1950 and 49 percent in 2000.

Coupled with the fact that in 2005 married couples became a minority of all American households for the first time, the trend could ultimately shape social and workplace policies, including the ways government and employers distribute benefits.

Several factors are driving the statistical shift. At one end of the age spectrum, women are marrying later or living with unmarried partners more often and for longer periods. At the other end, women are living longer as widows and, after a divorce, are more likely than men to delay remarriage, sometimes delighting in their newfound freedom.

In addition, marriage rates among black women remain low. Only about 30 percent of black women are living with a spouse, according to the Census Bureau, compared with about 49 percent of Hispanic women, 55 percent of non-Hispanic white women and more than 60 percent of Asian women.

In a relatively small number of cases, the living arrangement is temporary, because the husbands are working out of town, are in the military or are institutionalized. But while most women eventually marry, the larger trend is unmistakable.

“This is yet another of the inexorable signs that there is no going back to a world where we can assume that marriage is the main institution that organizes people’s lives,” said Prof. Stephanie Coontz, director of public education for the Council on Contemporary Families, a nonprofit research group. “Most of these women will marry, or have married. But on average, Americans now spend half their adult lives outside marriage.”

Professor Coontz said this was probably unprecedented with the possible exception of major wartime mobilizations and when black couples were separated during slavery.

William H. Frey, a demographer with the Brookings Institution, a research group in Washington, described the shift as “a clear tipping point, reflecting the culmination of post-1960 trends associated with greater independence and more flexible lifestyles for women.”

“For better or worse, women are less dependent on men or the institution of marriage,” Dr. Frey said. “Younger women understand this better, and are preparing to live longer parts of their lives alone or with nonmarried partners. For many older boomer and senior women, the institution of marriage did not hold the promise they might have hoped for, growing up in an ‘Ozzie and Harriet’ era.”

Emily Zuzik, a 32-year-old musician and model who lives in the East Village of Manhattan, said she was not surprised by the trend.

“A lot of my friends are divorced or single or living alone,” Ms. Zuzik said. “I know a lot of people in their 30s who have roommates.”

Ms. Zuzik has lived with a boyfriend twice, once in California where the couple registered as domestic partners to qualify for his health insurance plan. “I don’t plan to live with anyone else again until I am married,” she said, “and I may opt to keep a place of my own even then.”

Linda Barth, a 56-year-old magazine editor in Houston who has never married, said, “I used to divide my women friends into single friends and married friends. Now that doesn’t seem to be an issue.”

Sheila Jamison, who also lives in the East Village and works for a media company, is 45 and single. She says her family believes she would have had a better chance of finding a husband had she attended a historically black college instead of Duke.

“Considering all the weddings I attended in the ’80s that have ended so very, very badly, I consider myself straight up lucky,” Ms. Jamison said. “I have not sworn off marriage, but if I do wed, it will be to have a companion with whom I can travel and play parlor games in my old age.”

Carol Crenshaw, 57, of Roswell, Ga., was divorced in 2005 after 33 years and says she is in no hurry to marry again.

“I’m in a place in my life where I’m comfortable,” said Ms. Crenshaw, who has two grown sons. “I can do what I want, when I want, with whom I want. I was a wife and a mother. I don’t feel like I need to do that again.”

Similarly, Shelley Fidler, 59, a public policy adviser at a law firm, has sworn off marriage. She moved from rural Virginia to the vibrant Adams Morgan neighborhood of Washington, D.C., when her 30-year marriage ended.

“The benefits were completely unforeseen for me,” Ms. Fidler said, “the free time, the amount of time I get to spend with friends, the time I have alone, which I value tremendously, the flexibility in terms of work, travel and cultural events.”

Among the more than 117 million women age 15 and older, according to the marital status category in the Census Bureau’s latest American Community Survey, 63 million are married. Of those, 3.1 million are legally separated and 2.4 million said their husbands were not living at home for one reason or another.

That brings the number of American women actually living with a spouse to 57.5 million, compared with the 59.9 million who are single or whose husbands were not living at home when the survey was taken in 2005.

Some of those situations, which the census identifies as “spouse absent” and “other,” are temporary, and, of course, even some people who describe themselves as separated eventually reunite with their spouses.

Over all, a larger share of men are married and living with their spouse — about 53 percent compared with 49 percent among women.

“Since women continue to outlive men, they have reached the nonmarital tipping point — more nonmarried than married,” Dr. Frey said. “This suggests that most girls growing up today can look forward to spending more of their lives outside of a traditional marriage.”

Pamela J. Smock, a researcher at the University of Michigan Population Studies Center, agreed, saying that “changing patterns of courtship, marriage, and that we are living longer lives all play a role.”

“Men also remarry more quickly than women after a divorce,” Ms. Smock added, “and both are increasingly likely to cohabit rather than remarry after a divorce.”

The proportion of married people, especially among younger age groups, has been declining for decades. Between 1950 and 2000, the share of women 15-to-24 who were married plummeted to 16 percent, from 42 percent. Among 25-to-34-year-olds, the proportion dropped to 58 percent, from 82 percent.

“Although we can help people ‘do’ marriage better, it is simply delusional to construct social policy or make personal life decisions on the basis that you can count on people spending most of their adult lives in marriage,” said Professor Coontz, the author of “Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage.”

Besse Gardner, 24, said she and her boyfriend met as college freshmen and started living together last April “for all the wrong reasons” — they found a great apartment on the beach in Los Angeles.

“We do not see living together as an end or even for the rest of our lives — it’s just fun right now,” Ms. Gardner said. “My roommate is someone I’d be thrilled to marry one day, but it just doesn’t make sense right now.”

Ms. Crenshaw said that some of the women in her support group for divorced women were miserable, but that she was surprised how happy she was to be single again.

“That’s not how I grew up,” she said. “That’s not how society thinks. It’s a marriage culture.”

Elissa B. Terris, 59, of Marietta, Ga., divorced in 2005 after being married for 34 years and raising a daughter, who is now an adult.

“A gentleman asked me to marry him and I said no,” she recalled. “I told him, ‘I’m just beginning to fly again, I’m just beginning to be me. Don’t take that away.’ ”

“Marriage kind of aged me because there weren’t options,” Ms. Terris said. “There was only one way to go. Now I have choices. One night I slept on the other side of the bed, and I thought, I like this side.”

She said she was returning to college to get a master’s degree (her former husband “didn’t want me to do that because I was more educated than he was”), had taken photography classes and was auditioning for a play.

“Once you go through something you think will kill you and it doesn’t,” she said, “every day is like a present.”

Ariel Sabar, Brenda Goodman and Maureen Balleza contributed reporting.

Correction: February 14, 2007

A front-page article and chart on Jan. 16 about the rising number of women in the United States living without spouses referred imprecisely to ages of the women included in the Census Bureau survey that was the basis of the finding. The women were 15 and older, not over 15.

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			<title><![CDATA[So Many Men, So Few Women]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[THE phrase ''All the good ones are taken'' is usually ascribed to lovelorn women. But if you're in your 20's, single, straight and looking for love, the statistical odds of finding a full-time partner are better if you're a woman. Unless you're a black woman.

People are attracted to one another for lots of reasons, of course, but numbers count, too. And while sex ratios vary by place, nationwide the Census Bureau calculates that among single non-Hispanic whites in their 20's, there are 120 men for every 100 women. The comparable figures are 153 Hispanic men, 132 Asian men and 92 black men for every 100 single women in their 20's of the same race or ethnicity.

Overall, there are 120 men in their 20's who have never been married, widowed or divorced for every 100 women in the same category.

There are several reasons for these disparities. More men are born than women. Immigration rates are higher among Hispanic men than women, while incarceration and mortality rates among black men are high.

The median age for first marriages was 25.8 for women and 27.4 for men in 2004, the highest on record. Among whites, Hispanics and Asians, most women marry by their late 20's and men by their early 30's.

Among blacks, a minority of women in every age group are married and living with a spouse. Only black women who make &#36;40,000 to &#36;75,000 and are in their early 40's, and those who make &#36;75,000 to &#36;100,000 and are in their mid-30's and 40's, are more likely to be married than not. A majority of black men from the ages of 50 to 84, and those making &#36;40,000 and up, are married.

These statistics, however don't tell the whole story. ''People's behavior about marriage changed more in the past 30 years than in the last 3,000,'' said Prof. Stephanie Coontz, a sociology professor at Evergreen State College in Washington and author of ''Marriage, a History.''

More people are living together without marrying; more are marrying people of another race. And more women are choosing motherhood without marrying. In ''Mismatch: The Growing Gulf Between Men and Women '' (2003), Andrew Hacker, a political scientist at Queens College, predicted a growing divide between the sexes, in part because women are less willing ''to subsume themselves or limit their ambitions to make life more congenial for men.''

But while it's true that Americans are marrying later, Ms. Coontz said she believed men and women were becoming more adaptable, though women in general ''have become more distrustful of marriage and men have been more likely to say marriage is an ideal state.''

''Women,'' she added, ''are tending with the new equality to be more cautious about an institution that comes with a lot of expectations about women doing the comfort-generating work.''

Nonetheless, the vast majority of Americans do, somehow, get married. So, come Valentine's Day this Tuesday, romance will still be in the air. 

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[THE phrase ''All the good ones are taken'' is usually ascribed to lovelorn women. But if you're in your 20's, single, straight and looking for love, the statistical odds of finding a full-time partner are better if you're a woman. Unless you're a black woman.

People are attracted to one another for lots of reasons, of course, but numbers count, too. And while sex ratios vary by place, nationwide the Census Bureau calculates that among single non-Hispanic whites in their 20's, there are 120 men for every 100 women. The comparable figures are 153 Hispanic men, 132 Asian men and 92 black men for every 100 single women in their 20's of the same race or ethnicity.

Overall, there are 120 men in their 20's who have never been married, widowed or divorced for every 100 women in the same category.

There are several reasons for these disparities. More men are born than women. Immigration rates are higher among Hispanic men than women, while incarceration and mortality rates among black men are high.

The median age for first marriages was 25.8 for women and 27.4 for men in 2004, the highest on record. Among whites, Hispanics and Asians, most women marry by their late 20's and men by their early 30's.

Among blacks, a minority of women in every age group are married and living with a spouse. Only black women who make &#36;40,000 to &#36;75,000 and are in their early 40's, and those who make &#36;75,000 to &#36;100,000 and are in their mid-30's and 40's, are more likely to be married than not. A majority of black men from the ages of 50 to 84, and those making &#36;40,000 and up, are married.

These statistics, however don't tell the whole story. ''People's behavior about marriage changed more in the past 30 years than in the last 3,000,'' said Prof. Stephanie Coontz, a sociology professor at Evergreen State College in Washington and author of ''Marriage, a History.''

More people are living together without marrying; more are marrying people of another race. And more women are choosing motherhood without marrying. In ''Mismatch: The Growing Gulf Between Men and Women '' (2003), Andrew Hacker, a political scientist at Queens College, predicted a growing divide between the sexes, in part because women are less willing ''to subsume themselves or limit their ambitions to make life more congenial for men.''

But while it's true that Americans are marrying later, Ms. Coontz said she believed men and women were becoming more adaptable, though women in general ''have become more distrustful of marriage and men have been more likely to say marriage is an ideal state.''

''Women,'' she added, ''are tending with the new equality to be more cautious about an institution that comes with a lot of expectations about women doing the comfort-generating work.''

Nonetheless, the vast majority of Americans do, somehow, get married. So, come Valentine's Day this Tuesday, romance will still be in the air. 

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			<title><![CDATA[Monogamy vs Pologamy]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 09:18:00 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I think this phenomenon is a reality already...has been, should I say.  The numbers just don't add up for women.

The funny thing is...that women (generally speaking) are already practicing polygamy and don't even know it!  :lol:

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[I think this phenomenon is a reality already...has been, should I say.  The numbers just don't add up for women.

The funny thing is...that women (generally speaking) are already practicing polygamy and don't even know it!  :lol:

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			<title><![CDATA[Question for the men]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:35:36 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I have always wondered what would be the best environment to meet intelligent men.  When I was single I could never meet any nice guys.  It seemed as if the guys with the pickup lines, gold teeth, and baby mama drama always approached me.  

I don't dress provactively, have been told I speak well, and am well versed.  Looking to help my many single friends and have no answers.  I met my husband through a friend.  So what knowlede can I drop on my fellow girlfriends that are still single?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[I have always wondered what would be the best environment to meet intelligent men.  When I was single I could never meet any nice guys.  It seemed as if the guys with the pickup lines, gold teeth, and baby mama drama always approached me.  

I don't dress provactively, have been told I speak well, and am well versed.  Looking to help my many single friends and have no answers.  I met my husband through a friend.  So what knowlede can I drop on my fellow girlfriends that are still single?]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[WHat Makes a Man Fly 4000 miles to kill his ex?]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 11:09:18 -0500</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Jealous lover flew 4,000 miles to stab ex-girlfriend to death after seeing her on Facebook with another man



A Facebook stalker was jailed for at least 22 years today for killing his ex-girlfriend after seeing her on social networking site with another man.

An Old Bailey jury took only an hour to convict Paul Bristol, 25, of murder.

Camille Mathurasingh, 27, died less than two weeks after Bristol saw her with new love Besim Haxhia.

Bristol got on a plane and flew 4,000 miles from Trinidad to England to challenge her.

He stabbed the accountant 20 times at her home in Bow, east London, before cutting himself and crashing her car last April.

Bristol, an IT technician for the Trinidad and Tobago Ministry of Administration, had denied murder, claiming manslaughter through provocation.

Judge Timothy Pontius told Bristol: 'Clearly you were eaten up by jealousy.'

Judge Pontius said Miss Mathurasingh had fought 'frantically and desperately for her life'.

She had done nothing to provoke Bristol but was clearly someone 'who would not want in any way to hurt his feelings and was very concerned to let him down gently'.

The judge said that having found out about her new relationship, he could not accept that she was not only working thousands of miles away, but that she had moved on in her life.

Judge Pontius added: 'You could not accept that the life you had previously had gone.

'You were determined that no other man should replace you in her life.

'You attacked her with such repeated savagery and horrifying ferocity that it was your intention to kill her.'

He said he rejected claims that Bristol had genuinely tried to commit suicide after the murder.

'Camille Mathurasingh was a highly intelligent and ambitious young woman - beautiful and vivacious, caring and loving,' he told the court.

'Her death has left a huge and permanent void in the lives of a truly decent family.'

Miss Mathurasingh's mother and two of her sisters held hands at the side of the court as Bristol was led away.

The trial heard that the day before she died, Miss Mathurasingh phoned her sister Nadine to say Bristol had arrived from Trinidad and she had been forced to flee the house.





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A Facebook stalker was jailed for at least 22 years today for killing his ex-girlfriend after seeing her on social networking site with another man.

An Old Bailey jury took only an hour to convict Paul Bristol, 25, of murder.

Camille Mathurasingh, 27, died less than two weeks after Bristol saw her with new love Besim Haxhia.

Bristol got on a plane and flew 4,000 miles from Trinidad to England to challenge her.

He stabbed the accountant 20 times at her home in Bow, east London, before cutting himself and crashing her car last April.

Bristol, an IT technician for the Trinidad and Tobago Ministry of Administration, had denied murder, claiming manslaughter through provocation.

Judge Timothy Pontius told Bristol: 'Clearly you were eaten up by jealousy.'

Judge Pontius said Miss Mathurasingh had fought 'frantically and desperately for her life'.

She had done nothing to provoke Bristol but was clearly someone 'who would not want in any way to hurt his feelings and was very concerned to let him down gently'.

The judge said that having found out about her new relationship, he could not accept that she was not only working thousands of miles away, but that she had moved on in her life.

Judge Pontius added: 'You could not accept that the life you had previously had gone.

'You were determined that no other man should replace you in her life.

'You attacked her with such repeated savagery and horrifying ferocity that it was your intention to kill her.'

He said he rejected claims that Bristol had genuinely tried to commit suicide after the murder.

'Camille Mathurasingh was a highly intelligent and ambitious young woman - beautiful and vivacious, caring and loving,' he told the court.

'Her death has left a huge and permanent void in the lives of a truly decent family.'

Miss Mathurasingh's mother and two of her sisters held hands at the side of the court as Bristol was led away.

The trial heard that the day before she died, Miss Mathurasingh phoned her sister Nadine to say Bristol had arrived from Trinidad and she had been forced to flee the house.





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